The comparison of others is a distraction to what's possible. As a father, I typically compare myself to other fathers to see if I 'measure up'. And yes I do the same with being a husband. The truth is, it doesn't stop there. We can easily get distracted by measuring up to everyone else. We try to reach everyone else's expectations and even our own, but we often fail to bend both knees and ask God what are His expectations. The issue at hand is knowing our identity because without it every step of our journey will be halted. When we compare ourselves, we lose our identity and can not move forward. We never get to settle and root our foundation properly. Like a derailed train we never quite get there. We are full of potential and cargo (gifts) but we never meet our purpose because we are not submitting to God's will. We aren't only holding ourselves up, but those coming behind us as well. Our destination is Boston and we end up in New York and we wonder why we are stressed. Stress comes from comparing our struggle to someone else's success, or life.
Jeremiah 29:11 reads, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." The word plans there in Hebrew, means 'intentions or means'. Purpose requires you to make peace with who you are and stop pretending to be who you aren't. God has intentions for us. He takes delight in our significance. The bible in seven words describes God's intentions, which is God restoring His relationship with His people. Hillsong has a song titled, 'Turn your eyes upon Jesus' and that is exactly what we need to do. Look full in His wonderful face and let God speak to you about the person He needs you to be.